Changing
shyness, one person
at a time...
"Amazing
Secrets Finally Revealed — How to Overcome Shyness for Good, Make
Friends, Attract the Opposite Sex, and Finally Get on with Your Life!"
Dear Friend,
Shyness stinks, doesn't it?
You have
trouble getting dates. You don't get invited to parties. Dances are for
other people.
You're
really a good person. You're sensitive, considerate. You follow all the
rules of "How To Win Friends and Influence People." Yet you still have
trouble making friends or attracting the opposite sex. All around you,
you see
people quickly making friends, enjoying lively conversations, having a
good time, and getting as many dates as they desire. You think to
yourself "What
is wrong with me? Why can other people make friends so easily but I
can't? Am I just an unlikable person?"
No,
you're not
an unlikable person. You're
just shy.
Believe
me, I know. For many
years, I was just about the shyest person you ever met. Call me a
"recovering shy guy."
In all those
years as a shy person, I
became intensely
aware of just what is wrong with being shy. I had trouble making
friends, never went on dates, and generally just sat by myself in the
cafeteria at lunch time, pretending I wasn't lonely.
You see, I
know how frustrating it is to go
through
life being unable to draw other people into warm personal contacts!
The greatest
need of human beings aside
from food,
clothing and shelter is that of human companionship. Shyness strikes at the very core of what it
means to
be human—the ability to make that vital human connection
with
others!
What's
Wrong With Being Shy?
The
fact
is that shyness or social phobia,
depending on their degree, can keep you from making friends, finding a
mate, even getting or holding onto a job. How outgoing you
are,
in large part, determines whether you become a janitor or a manager, a
delivery driver or the head of the company. No matter how skilled you
are in your particular field of expertise, if you lack skill in dealing
with other people, you will have a tough time achieving success.
The big city,
a new school or the
dog-eat-dog world of
work can seem like awfully inhospitable places without the comfort and
warm companionship of good friends. Some people are able to make
friends in their first day of entering a new environment. Others aren't able to form close
friendships
even
after several years!
While the
popular conception of shy people
may be that
they are aloof or distant, unlike true introverts, shy people are
actually far from indifferent to the desire to be well-liked. In fact,
shy people may be even more concerned about being liked than
extroverts, since, for shy people, the goal of popularity may be harder
to attain and thus more tantalizing.
And this is
why shyness can be so
maddening. On the one
hand, it makes it difficult to become well-liked, but on the other
hand, it creates a feverish desire to be liked, since we all tend to
desire most those things that are withheld from us!
Extreme
shyness can even mean
that you feel unhappy or uncomfortable whenever you find yourself
around other people. This is, of course, a large
percentage of
the time for the student, the employee or anyone else for that matter.
And if other
people should sense your aversion to them, this can lead to even more
strained relations!
As if all this
weren't bad enough, shy
people are even
said to be more prone to hypertension, (according to a Stanford
University study reported in Longevity
magazine), because they constantly worry about how they're being
perceived. And according to a report published in the journal Science, people
who live isolated lives with few strong friendships are twice as likely
to die prematurely as those who have close friends and a
strong
social network. Researchers in the United States, Finland and Sweden
found that the mortality risk from social isolation is as great as the
mortality risk from smoking. The findings came from studies of more
than 37,000 people.
Shyness
can hurt your chances of
getting a good job, too. Research done at the University
of
Tulsa in Oklahoma showed that the more shy a person is, the less
prestigious his last job title tends to be. Unfortunately, almost every
lucrative position requires a strong personality, assertiveness and an
astute sense of office politics. It also requires you to be liked by
other people; your boss, your clients and your co-workers. The sad fact
is that shy people are often not liked by as many people as they like,
and are sometimes liked by very few!
Even
worse, I've found that shy
people can be the subject of cruel harassment on the job by people who
think that their timid and unassertive demeanor makes them a convenient
"punching bag!"
And
then there's trying to
attract the opposite sex!
If you're a
guy, how
many times
have you heard from a girl "I only like you as a friend." If so, you
know how much that can sting. Sure, you want to have friends, but you
would also like to someday form a relationship that goes, well, a
little deeper. But you just don't know how to emotionally connect with
a woman.
If you're
female and reading this, you have
a similar
problem. Guys think of you as the "quiet" or "bookish" type and you get
passed by or overlooked when it comes to invitations for the prom, the
dance, and other activities. Or maybe you're full grown adult, out in
the real-world, and you're either still single or you have had a
history of unsatisfying relationships.
The fact
is that shyness affects
almost every aspect of your life. Humans are social
creatures,
and we desperately need to connect and get on well with others in order
to enjoy any kind of success, whether it be social or professional.
Believe me, I know. Like I said, I was shy
myself, and
I know what it's like eating by yourself in the cafeteria every day,
desperately wanting to strike up a conversation with that pretty girl
but not knowing how, being overlooked for advancement on the job simply
because you're shy and quiet, and all the other problems that go along
with being a shy person.
But then
I discovered the secret
of overcoming shyness.
No, this secret didn't come in a
flash of
blinding inspiration or insight. It took many years of study,
investigation and painful trial and error before I finally discovered
the TRUE secrets of overcoming shyness. I pored through scores of
books. I tried different disciplines like self hypnosis, meditation,
and even anti-anxiety drugs. It took a long time, but I finally
discovered what really works and what doesn't.
In
fact, you may already know about me. My name is Tim Arends
and I am the author of
the
long-running Internet shyness FAQ, (formerly the alt.support.shyness
FAQ) which I
first posted to the Internet over 10 years ago (back in 1998, to be
precise) and have kept updated
ever since. (An FAQ is a list of Frequently Asked Questions and their
answers.) It was originally posted on a monthly basis to the Usenet
newsgroup alt.support.shyness. Soon after that, it was posted to the
Web for all the world to see.
In October of 2008, the free Web server the
site was
hosted on decided to drop their service. So I decided to create a new
domain for it at www.shyFAQ.com.
So, you see, I'm no "Johnny-Come-Lately" to
this world of shyness counseling. I know what it's like to be
shy, and I
want to help others overcome their shyness. Indeed, countless
numbers of shy people have found my FAQ over the years and have
benefited
from it. I was
pleased that the FAQ was mentioned in the famous "Dear Abby" newspaper
column, circulated in hundreds of newspapers around the world.
I
have
gotten wonderful comments over the years in response to my FAQ,
comments like the following:
Excellent site. You
folks have put
together an excellent amount and range of information. Well done. —
Mark
This website has given me
inspiration and
hope to try and become less shy. I have always struggled
with my
shyness but never had the self-confidence to change-but after reading
this website I am especially motivated to change, especially after
reading the techniques on visualization and systematic desensitization.
Life is short, and I want to be able to enjoy it by not having to worry
so much about what other people think of me due to this shyness-and I
hope these techniques help me to do so. — Nadia
This website has helped me alot.
More people should have a positive input about shy individuals.
Continue to provide more information like this. It helps people to
realize that their is nothing wrong with being shy we just need a
little encourgement in our lives! May God bless — Lyrica, Tennessee
I find there
are so many
facets of shyness covered in here. I could identify mine as well. This wealth of information is a
great
starting point for me to deal with the issues I face
& hope
to improve. — Roland, Singapore
I wanted to
thank you for
this exelent web site about shyness . I have read some books about this
subject and articles (not much) and the advise you give her are the
best I have seen so far. I
felt like
you could read my mind somtimes, coz i recognized so well
the
things you mentioned. I wish that all shy people, can get as good
imformation as you give on this web page, coz they gave me a lot of
stength and help, and so it would be an advance to other people as
well. — Sara, Iceland
This site is really something
else - I am
delighted to have found it. Shyness has plagued my life,
all of
the symptoms are there - not being able to strike up small
conversations (resulting in having so little friends), an almost
alarming lack of self esteem, really I was at my wits end as to what I
could possibly do to cope. Feeling awkward is my speciality - but with
all of the great tips on this site, I feel a greater confidence that I
will (someday) be able to overcome my crippling shyness (never totally
but realistically deal with it) As we all know, that is what we all
must do to lead happier lives... — Jane, U.K.
And many more...
But even though my FAQ helped so many people, I realized that I could
do so much more. I realized that a website was not enough; I needed to
create a complete system on how to overcome shyness, make friends,
become popular, get a great job, and win with the opposite sex.
That's
why I created...
Break
out of Your Shell! How To Overcome Shyness So You Can Get On With Your
Life!
It's a complete home-study system that
describes in
careful, step-by-step detail, exactly how to overcome shyness in the
easiest and quickest way possible. In fact, I think I can honestly say
that this is the only system of its kind. It is packed with
hard-hitting, no-nonsense strategies and written with the understanding
that only someone who's "been there" himself can have.
Make no
mistake: this is not just another
book on
shyness. This is a complete and comprehensive home study system on how
to overcome shyness once and for all, and in the most painless way
possible!
Let's
face it:
shy people get a lot
of well-intentioned advice from parents, psychologists, counselors and
so on. But most people simply don't understand shyness like someone who
has been through it — they couldn't possibly understand how it feels
or how much it hurts.
So you
hear well-intentioned but over simplistic advice like
"Just show
an interest in other people. That's all you have to do to make them
love you," or "If you're friendly you will make more friends," or "You
need to think about helping other people rather than just yourself."
Maybe they say that you just suffer from "low self-esteem" and if you
simply learn to like yourself, your shyness will vanish!
Now here's the kicker: Some people, even
some
psychologists, blame shy people themselves for being shy! They say that
shyness is a form of egocentricism or selfishness! If shy people would
simply stop thinking about themselves and would instead think about
others, their shyness would disappear!
This
is a classic case of
blaming the victim!
Other so-called "self-help" regimens throw
out a bunch
of mystical mumbo-jumbo and then say that if it doesn't work, it must
be your fault because you simply "didn't believe in it strongly enough!"
Enough of that
nonsense! Shy people
have been kicked around long enough! Now it's time to fight back! It's
time for some real, hard-hitting, proven, no-nonsense strategies for
breaking out of your shell and becoming the type of person you always
dreamed of!
And that's exactly what I have created!
In
my powerful,
hard-hitting, and complete SYSTEM just look at what you will learn:
- How shyness
appears to other people and what they
really think about shy people (p. 1)
- Why other people respond to
shy people
the way they
do (p. 5)
- The powerful principle of
"attitude
matching" and
how to take advantage of it (p. 6)
- The difference between shyness
and
introversion (p. 11)
- The psychology of being
popular (p. 18)
- How your subconscious
mannerisms can
drive people
away from you, and how to identify these mannerisms and change
them—permanently! (p. 18)
- A complete test of
self-analysis to help
you
understand every aspect of your shyness and exactly how to beat it (p.
24)
- How to overcome anxiety without drugs! (p.
28)
- What works and what doesn't in
overcoming
shyness (p. 29)
- The simple 3 x 5 file card
system for
conquering
shyness (p. 33)
- The amazing power of
visualization; how
to use the
"theater of your mind" to transform your life (p. 39)
- The different kinds of
visualization,
and how to
make your visualizations vivid and powerful (p. 44)
- How to create a shyness
journal that
will help you
understand every aspect of your shyness and how to overcome it (p. 57)
- How to mirror extroverted
people and
establish
rapport (p. 68)
- Verbal self-defense; how to
keep people
from walking
all over you and making you look like a fool (p. 123)
And
that's just
the beginning! You'll also learn:
- How to
easily make conversation with everyone you
meet (p. 70)
- The powerful "Thought Drift"
and
"Branching"
techniques to make sure you never run out of thing to say (p.
95)
- How to create a great first
impression (p. 88)
- How to share interesting facts
about
yourself (p. 91)
- How and when to strike up a
conversation (p. 82)
- How to never have trouble
thinking of
things to
say—EVER! (p. 95)
- How to deepen the conversation
and move
beyond
superficialities like "Nice weather were having, isn't it?" (p. 90)
- Balancing the two-way exchange
(p. 91)
- How to seem like an expert on
any
subject (p. 98)
- How to avoid those "awkward
silences" (p. 97)
- How to deal with people who
seem to be
unfriendly—and those who really are! (p. 101)
- Group conversation: TWELVE
challenges and
how to deal
with them (no other source I know of covers this essential aspect of
human relations so thoroughly) (p. 103)
How
to easily
make friends
- How to get
to know your neighbors (including that good-looking guy or pretty girl
next door) (p. 110)
- How to get invited to parties
and
actually enjoy
them (p. 111)
- How to turn mere acquaintances
into
lasting
friendships (p. 111)
- How to get along with your
friends (p. 112)
- How to deal with common
friendship
problems such as
friends who are ultra competitive, friends who betray confidences,
friends who dominate conversations, friends who have split
personalities and so on (p. 116)
- How to gracefully end an
unsatisfying
friendship (p. 120)
How
to handle
jerks (this is my favorite part!)
- How to be
assertive and stick up for your own rights (p. 127)
- How to handle cliques and
snobs (and end
up having
the last laugh!) (p. 131)
- How to deal with manipulative
people (p. 131)
- How to deal with constant
critics and
those who use
"helpful" criticism as a secret tool of psychological warfare (p. 137)
- How shy people are more likely
to be
used as pawns
in mind games and what to do about it (p. 139)
- How to become a master of the
brilliant
comeback (p. 140)
- How to deal withe specific
difficult
types, such as
constant interrupters, people who go on and on and on and on, snobs,
bossy people, know-it-alls, argumentative types and insulting jerks!
(p. 142)
How
to choose
the perfect career (and impress everyone with your self-confidence)
- How to
overcome the type of shyness that keeps you
from landing the job of your dreams (p. 149)
- How to avoid job-hunting scams
(p. 154)
- How to be a master of the job
fair and
the job
interview (p. 159)
- How to create a great first
impression
when starting
at a new job (p. 171)
- The scary truth about
on-the-job
politics, and how
shy people are more likely to be its victims (p. 172)
- How "hazing" is often used in
the
workplace as a
tool of harassment and intimidation (p. 174)
- Why shy people are often the
victims of
on-the-job
harassment (p. 177)
- How to differentiate between
fair criticism on
the job and
that which is used as a cruel means of manipulation (p. 179)
- How to handle troublemakers on
the job (p. 182)
- How to get on well with your
co-workers (p. 191)
- How to impress your boss (p.
193)
- How to handle things if the
boss is also the
business owner (p. 194)
How
to win the boyfriend or girlfriend of your dreams
- How to
attract the opposite sex (p. 199)
- Great places to meet the
opposite sex (p. 201)
- How to never have trouble
thinking of
things to say (p. 213)
- How to easily get all the
dates you can
handle!
- The unspoken male and female
roles in
dating (this may surprise you)
- Master secrets you must know if you
want
to use the dating sites (p. 204)
- How to turn a "friend" into a
romantic
partner (never again hear "I
just want to be friends") (p. 206)
- How to flirt like an expert (p. 208)
- How to increase your allure so that you
become a magnet to the opposite sex! (p. 207)
- And much, much more!!!
How does all
that sound to you? By
now, your head is probably swimming, but you can see that I have
covered all aspects of shyness in great detail. I'm
particularly
proud of the extensive parts of the course that deal with how to win
the guy or gal of your dreams.
The
most common problem of shyness...
...is "freezing up" around
the opposite sex. If someone has any shyness at all, it is
most likely to
come out, or at least be most severe, whenever entering the realms of
dating, flirting, or even approaching a good-looking guy or
gal.
I
hear shy people complain all the time that they have no trouble making
friends of the same sex, and yet when it comes to flirting or making
contact with someone that might have some kind of romantic
implications, they become as tongue-tied as a five-year-old
trying to say "antidisestablishmentarianism!"
So
if attracting the opposite sex is the number one concern of so many shy
people, why didn't I just write a course on so-called "seduction"
techniques?
Because I find
that learning how to overcome "dating
anxiety" requires a synergistic
or holistic
approach. If you are shy
around the
opposite sex, it means that you have some unresolved issues that need
to be worked out first.
I
find that no one is "only" severely shy around the opposite sex. There
are deeper issues. And most of the techniques in my system that pertain
to shyness in other areas of life also pertain to romantic
issues. That is, if you can resolve the hidden issues in the
rest of your life, you'll find that approaching the opposite sex will
take care of itself, and vice versa.
After
all, why
would you have no
trouble making friends, yet be unable to attract romantic
partners, if there weren't some serious mental blocks holding you back?
Perhaps you've
even tried some of the so-called "seduction" books and courses.
But have you noticed one thing?
If you're shy,
none of the advice works!
Take two
pieces of the standard "seduction" advice:
Advice #1:
Show That You're In Control. (How are you going to do this when you
can't even make decent eye contact?)
Advice #2: Get Her Number SMOOTHLY. (Get her number?!? You can't even
get past the first "hello!")
Here's
another problem with those so-called "seduction" courses: They give you
"tips" and "techniques" for approaching the opposite sex, but they
don't address the underlying causes
and problems of shyness!
Let's say
you're given a great "opening line" for approaching someone. Yet, when
you actually try to use
it, you're scared to death, you seem
nervous, you fail to make good eye contact or you lack confidence! What
good does it do you?
None, nada,
zip!
That's why my
system addresses the secret,
unconscious mannerisms that may be giving you away! The
barely
noticeable, subtle yet unmistakable clues that communicate to someone
that you're unconfident, timid...
...and
deep down, you don't think you're
good enough for them!
Then my
system tells you how to eliminate
these traits and replace them with an unshakable, radiant confidence and self-assurance!
Okay,
it sounds good, but what
about the other shyness “experts” or “gurus” out there?
Well, I should
warn you, there are a lot of phony “experts” that you should watch out
for. Here's how to evaluate them and see if they really have what it
takes:
1.
Have they
been down that long hard road of shyness themselves and overcome it?
2.
Do they throw
out empty platitudes like "Believe in yourself" or "You could do it if
you really wanted to?"
3.
Do they talk
as if shyness is entirely the shy person's fault, or do they point out
the ways in which nasty, manipulative, and controlling people sometimes
try to take advantage of shy people's vulnerability? In other words, do
they "pull no punches" and tell it like it really is?
4.
Do they cover
all aspects of overcoming shyness such as dealing with difficult people
and winning with the opposite sex?
5.
Are they
"Johnny-Come-Latelys" or do they have a long history of helping people
with the problem of shyness?
6.
Do they push
expensive medications?
7.
Do they
charge exorbitant fees with no guarantee
of success?
By now, you have seen how my system covers
how to
overcome virtually every aspect of shyness and explains how to become a
master of every situation. Now I want to impress upon you the need to
take action.
You see, I
subscribed to the mistaken
notion for a long
time that I was going to eventually "outgrow my shyness." So I waited
and waited, and failed to take action. Sometimes,
people do outgrow their shyness—to a degree. But it
doesn't
always happen. It makes more sense to err on the side of
caution and
make sure you're taking the steps you need to now in order to beat your
shyness, doesn't it?
So
how much would you pay to
finally overcome your shyness?
Well,
let's think about it.
People have spent $250 per session for psychotherapy! Certainly, not
all psychotherapy or counseling is that expensive, but whatever it
costs, it can certainly add up! It's not unusual to spend hundreds of
dollars a year on therapy, and still not find a satisfying resolution
to one's problem.
Medication
can also be
dreadfully expensive. Anti-anxiety medications can run
into
thousands of dollars a year! Plus, these medications only treat
the anxiety.
They don't even touch on any of the other aspects of
shyness we have talked about, such as lack of self-confidence, not
knowing what to say, not feeling comfortable, not making good eye
contact, etc. Anti anxiety medications, just as the name implies,
address only the anxiety aspect of shyness! Plus, they can cause
bothersome side effects, such as queasiness, loss of sex
drive, etc. You can be assured that my system costs a lot less than
anti-anxiety medications with none of the unwanted side effects!
Now
think of how much your
shyness can cost you in lost income throughout your lifetime.
Think of the long series of poorly-paying jobs because you don't know
how to "network" or impress in a job interview, the lack of promotions
because you fail to get on well with your boss or supervisors, the
hanging onto a poorly-paying job because you dread going through the
job-hunting process all over again—how much will all that cost you
over your lifetime in lost wages?
Now, how much
would you pay for such a
powerful system
as I am offering here? $300? $500? Believe me, I would practically have
given my right arm to have learned such powerful methods of overcoming
shyness when I was younger.
When I say that what I offer is a complete
system, I mean it! It's
not
just a "course" or a "manual." It is a complete system that addresses
all of the issues surrounding shyness—lack of self-confidence,
anxiety, lack of conversational skills, lack of assertiveness, poor
"networking" skills, trouble attracting the opposite sex, and all the
other issues that go along with shyness.
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Changing shyness, one person at a time... "Amazing Secrets Finally Revealed — How to Overcome Shyness for Good, Make Friends, Attract the Opposite Sex, and Finally Get on with Your Life!"Dear Friend, Shyness stinks, doesn't it? You have trouble getting dates. You don't get invited to parties. Dances are for other people. You're really a good person. You're sensitive, considerate. You follow all the rules of "How To Win Friends and Influence People." Yet you still have trouble making friends or attracting the opposite sex. All around you, you see people quickly making friends, enjoying lively conversations, having a good time, and getting as many dates as they desire. You think to yourself "What is wrong with me? Why can other people make friends so easily but I can't? Am I just an unlikable person?" No, you're not an unlikable person. You're just shy. Believe me, I know. For many years, I was just about the shyest person you ever met. Call me a "recovering shy guy." In all those years as a shy person, I became intensely aware of just what is wrong with being shy. I had trouble making friends, never went on dates, and generally just sat by myself in the cafeteria at lunch time, pretending I wasn't lonely. You see, I know how frustrating it is to go through life being unable to draw other people into warm personal contacts! The greatest need of human beings aside from food, clothing and shelter is that of human companionship. Shyness strikes at the very core of what it means to be human—the ability to make that vital human connection with others! What's Wrong With Being Shy?The fact is that shyness or social phobia, depending on their degree, can keep you from making friends, finding a mate, even getting or holding onto a job. How outgoing you are, in large part, determines whether you become a janitor or a manager, a delivery driver or the head of the company. No matter how skilled you are in your particular field of expertise, if you lack skill in dealing with other people, you will have a tough time achieving success. The big city, a new school or the dog-eat-dog world of work can seem like awfully inhospitable places without the comfort and warm companionship of good friends. Some people are able to make friends in their first day of entering a new environment. Others aren't able to form close friendships even after several years! While the popular conception of shy people may be that they are aloof or distant, unlike true introverts, shy people are actually far from indifferent to the desire to be well-liked. In fact, shy people may be even more concerned about being liked than extroverts, since, for shy people, the goal of popularity may be harder to attain and thus more tantalizing. And this is why shyness can be so maddening. On the one hand, it makes it difficult to become well-liked, but on the other hand, it creates a feverish desire to be liked, since we all tend to desire most those things that are withheld from us! Extreme shyness can even mean that you feel unhappy or uncomfortable whenever you find yourself around other people. This is, of course, a large percentage of the time for the student, the employee or anyone else for that matter. And if other people should sense your aversion to them, this can lead to even more strained relations! As if all this weren't bad enough, shy people are even said to be more prone to hypertension, (according to a Stanford University study reported in Longevity magazine), because they constantly worry about how they're being perceived. And according to a report published in the journal Science, people who live isolated lives with few strong friendships are twice as likely to die prematurely as those who have close friends and a strong social network. Researchers in the United States, Finland and Sweden found that the mortality risk from social isolation is as great as the mortality risk from smoking. The findings came from studies of more than 37,000 people. Shyness can hurt your chances of getting a good job, too. Research done at the University of Tulsa in Oklahoma showed that the more shy a person is, the less prestigious his last job title tends to be. Unfortunately, almost every lucrative position requires a strong personality, assertiveness and an astute sense of office politics. It also requires you to be liked by other people; your boss, your clients and your co-workers. The sad fact is that shy people are often not liked by as many people as they like, and are sometimes liked by very few! Even worse, I've found that shy people can be the subject of cruel harassment on the job by people who think that their timid and unassertive demeanor makes them a convenient "punching bag!" And then there's trying to attract the opposite sex! If you're a guy, how many times have you heard from a girl "I only like you as a friend." If so, you know how much that can sting. Sure, you want to have friends, but you would also like to someday form a relationship that goes, well, a little deeper. But you just don't know how to emotionally connect with a woman. If you're female and reading this, you have a similar problem. Guys think of you as the "quiet" or "bookish" type and you get passed by or overlooked when it comes to invitations for the prom, the dance, and other activities. Or maybe you're full grown adult, out in the real-world, and you're either still single or you have had a history of unsatisfying relationships. The fact is that shyness affects almost every aspect of your life. Humans are social creatures, and we desperately need to connect and get on well with others in order to enjoy any kind of success, whether it be social or professional. Believe me, I know. Like I said, I was shy myself, and I know what it's like eating by yourself in the cafeteria every day, desperately wanting to strike up a conversation with that pretty girl but not knowing how, being overlooked for advancement on the job simply because you're shy and quiet, and all the other problems that go along with being a shy person. But then I discovered the secret of overcoming shyness. No, this secret didn't come in a flash of blinding inspiration or insight. It took many years of study, investigation and painful trial and error before I finally discovered the TRUE secrets of overcoming shyness. I pored through scores of books. I tried different disciplines like self hypnosis, meditation, and even anti-anxiety drugs. It took a long time, but I finally discovered what really works and what doesn't.
In October of 2008, the free Web server the site was hosted on decided to drop their service. So I decided to create a new domain for it at www.shyFAQ.com. So, you see, I'm no "Johnny-Come-Lately" to this world of shyness counseling. I know what it's like to be shy, and I want to help others overcome their shyness. Indeed, countless numbers of shy people have found my FAQ over the years and have benefited from it. I was pleased that the FAQ was mentioned in the famous "Dear Abby" newspaper column, circulated in hundreds of newspapers around the world. I have gotten wonderful comments over the years in response to my FAQ, comments like the following: Excellent site. You
folks have put
together an excellent amount and range of information. Well done. —
Mark This website has given me inspiration and hope to try and become less shy. I have always struggled with my shyness but never had the self-confidence to change-but after reading this website I am especially motivated to change, especially after reading the techniques on visualization and systematic desensitization. Life is short, and I want to be able to enjoy it by not having to worry so much about what other people think of me due to this shyness-and I hope these techniques help me to do so. — Nadia This website has helped me alot.
More people should have a positive input about shy individuals.
Continue to provide more information like this. It helps people to
realize that their is nothing wrong with being shy we just need a
little encourgement in our lives! May God bless — Lyrica, Tennessee I wanted to thank you for this exelent web site about shyness . I have read some books about this subject and articles (not much) and the advise you give her are the best I have seen so far. I felt like you could read my mind somtimes, coz i recognized so well the things you mentioned. I wish that all shy people, can get as good imformation as you give on this web page, coz they gave me a lot of stength and help, and so it would be an advance to other people as well. — Sara, Iceland This site is really something else - I am delighted to have found it. Shyness has plagued my life, all of the symptoms are there - not being able to strike up small conversations (resulting in having so little friends), an almost alarming lack of self esteem, really I was at my wits end as to what I could possibly do to cope. Feeling awkward is my speciality - but with all of the great tips on this site, I feel a greater confidence that I will (someday) be able to overcome my crippling shyness (never totally but realistically deal with it) As we all know, that is what we all must do to lead happier lives... — Jane, U.K.
That's why I created...
It's a complete home-study system that describes in careful, step-by-step detail, exactly how to overcome shyness in the easiest and quickest way possible. In fact, I think I can honestly say that this is the only system of its kind. It is packed with hard-hitting, no-nonsense strategies and written with the understanding that only someone who's "been there" himself can have. Make no mistake: this is not just another book on shyness. This is a complete and comprehensive home study system on how to overcome shyness once and for all, and in the most painless way possible! Let's face it: shy people get a lot of well-intentioned advice from parents, psychologists, counselors and so on. But most people simply don't understand shyness like someone who has been through it — they couldn't possibly understand how it feels or how much it hurts. So you hear well-intentioned but over simplistic advice like "Just show an interest in other people. That's all you have to do to make them love you," or "If you're friendly you will make more friends," or "You need to think about helping other people rather than just yourself." Maybe they say that you just suffer from "low self-esteem" and if you simply learn to like yourself, your shyness will vanish! Now here's the kicker: Some people, even some psychologists, blame shy people themselves for being shy! They say that shyness is a form of egocentricism or selfishness! If shy people would simply stop thinking about themselves and would instead think about others, their shyness would disappear! This is a classic case of blaming the victim! Other so-called "self-help" regimens throw out a bunch of mystical mumbo-jumbo and then say that if it doesn't work, it must be your fault because you simply "didn't believe in it strongly enough!" Enough of that nonsense! Shy people have been kicked around long enough! Now it's time to fight back! It's time for some real, hard-hitting, proven, no-nonsense strategies for breaking out of your shell and becoming the type of person you always dreamed of! And that's exactly what I have created! In my powerful, hard-hitting, and complete SYSTEM just look at what you will learn:
And that's just the beginning! You'll also learn:
How to easily make friends
How to handle jerks (this is my favorite part!)
How to choose the perfect career (and impress everyone with your self-confidence)
How to win the boyfriend or girlfriend of your dreams
How does all that sound to you? By now, your head is probably swimming, but you can see that I have covered all aspects of shyness in great detail. I'm particularly proud of the extensive parts of the course that deal with how to win the guy or gal of your dreams. The most common problem of shyness... ...is "freezing up" around the opposite sex. If someone has any shyness at all, it is most likely to come out, or at least be most severe, whenever entering the realms of dating, flirting, or even approaching a good-looking guy or gal. I hear shy people complain all the time that they have no trouble making friends of the same sex, and yet when it comes to flirting or making contact with someone that might have some kind of romantic implications, they become as tongue-tied as a five-year-old trying to say "antidisestablishmentarianism!" So if attracting the opposite sex is the number one concern of so many shy people, why didn't I just write a course on so-called "seduction" techniques? Because I find that learning how to overcome "dating anxiety" requires a synergistic or holistic approach. If you are shy around the opposite sex, it means that you have some unresolved issues that need to be worked out first. I find that no one is "only" severely shy around the opposite sex. There are deeper issues. And most of the techniques in my system that pertain to shyness in other areas of life also pertain to romantic issues. That is, if you can resolve the hidden issues in the rest of your life, you'll find that approaching the opposite sex will take care of itself, and vice versa. After all, why would you have no trouble making friends, yet be unable to attract romantic partners, if there weren't some serious mental blocks holding you back? Perhaps you've
even tried some of the so-called "seduction" books and courses. If you're shy, none of the advice works! Take two pieces of the standard "seduction" advice: Advice #1:
Show That You're In Control. (How are you going to do this when you
can't even make decent eye contact?) Here's another problem with those so-called "seduction" courses: They give you "tips" and "techniques" for approaching the opposite sex, but they don't address the underlying causes and problems of shyness! Let's say you're given a great "opening line" for approaching someone. Yet, when you actually try to use it, you're scared to death, you seem nervous, you fail to make good eye contact or you lack confidence! What good does it do you? None, nada, zip! That's why my system addresses the secret, unconscious mannerisms that may be giving you away! The barely noticeable, subtle yet unmistakable clues that communicate to someone that you're unconfident, timid... ...and deep down, you don't think you're good enough for them! Then my system tells you how to eliminate these traits and replace them with an unshakable, radiant confidence and self-assurance! Okay, it sounds good, but what about the other shyness “experts” or “gurus” out there? Well, I should warn you, there are a lot of phony “experts” that you should watch out for. Here's how to evaluate them and see if they really have what it takes: 1. Have they been down that long hard road of shyness themselves and overcome it? 2. Do they throw out empty platitudes like "Believe in yourself" or "You could do it if you really wanted to?" 3. Do they talk as if shyness is entirely the shy person's fault, or do they point out the ways in which nasty, manipulative, and controlling people sometimes try to take advantage of shy people's vulnerability? In other words, do they "pull no punches" and tell it like it really is? 4. Do they cover all aspects of overcoming shyness such as dealing with difficult people and winning with the opposite sex? 5. Are they "Johnny-Come-Latelys" or do they have a long history of helping people with the problem of shyness? 6. Do they push expensive medications? 7. Do they charge exorbitant fees with no guarantee of success? By now, you have seen how my system covers how to overcome virtually every aspect of shyness and explains how to become a master of every situation. Now I want to impress upon you the need to take action. You see, I subscribed to the mistaken notion for a long time that I was going to eventually "outgrow my shyness." So I waited and waited, and failed to take action. Sometimes, people do outgrow their shyness—to a degree. But it doesn't always happen. It makes more sense to err on the side of caution and make sure you're taking the steps you need to now in order to beat your shyness, doesn't it? So how much would you pay to finally overcome your shyness? Well, let's think about it. People have spent $250 per session for psychotherapy! Certainly, not all psychotherapy or counseling is that expensive, but whatever it costs, it can certainly add up! It's not unusual to spend hundreds of dollars a year on therapy, and still not find a satisfying resolution to one's problem. Medication can also be dreadfully expensive. Anti-anxiety medications can run into thousands of dollars a year! Plus, these medications only treat the anxiety. They don't even touch on any of the other aspects of shyness we have talked about, such as lack of self-confidence, not knowing what to say, not feeling comfortable, not making good eye contact, etc. Anti anxiety medications, just as the name implies, address only the anxiety aspect of shyness! Plus, they can cause bothersome side effects, such as queasiness, loss of sex drive, etc. You can be assured that my system costs a lot less than anti-anxiety medications with none of the unwanted side effects! Now think of how much your shyness can cost you in lost income throughout your lifetime. Think of the long series of poorly-paying jobs because you don't know how to "network" or impress in a job interview, the lack of promotions because you fail to get on well with your boss or supervisors, the hanging onto a poorly-paying job because you dread going through the job-hunting process all over again—how much will all that cost you over your lifetime in lost wages? Now, how much would you pay for such a powerful system as I am offering here? $300? $500? Believe me, I would practically have given my right arm to have learned such powerful methods of overcoming shyness when I was younger. When I say that what I offer is a complete system, I mean it! It's not just a "course" or a "manual." It is a complete system that addresses all of the issues surrounding shyness—lack of self-confidence, anxiety, lack of conversational skills, lack of assertiveness, poor "networking" skills, trouble attracting the opposite sex, and all the other issues that go along with shyness. And that's not all!
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